We receied some WONDERFUL gifts for our wedding! I mean WONDERFUL! And I'm in the process of writing thank you notes and have come across a couple situations where I'm not sure what to do. So I'm asking all of you. Please help!
1. If you received something that was a duplicate or not quite right and you returned it, do you still thank the person for what they gave you? I have been so hopefully that's right...
2. If you receive a gift card or check how do you thank them for that? Do you just say thank you for the generous gift or can you tell them what you're purchasing? ideas? We actually are taking all the wedding money to purchase and fix up some furniture in the condo this year so it is a tangible thing? Thoughts?
3. And the ultimate question... If someone sent a card with no check, gift card or present do you send a thank you note for the warm wishes? My Auntie (who I swear gives Emily Post advice) says no you don't send a card for a card
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Thursday, January 03, 2008
Etiquette help please!
added with a smooch by kimi at 1/03/2008
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Here's my input- this is how I handled things for my wedding 2 years ago.
1. If someone gives you a duplicate/something you dont like and are going to return, write and thank them for the lovely gift and say something along the lines of "I know it will be put to good use." Dont specify by whom. Because it will be put to good use by the next person who buys it from the store.
2. Try to be as specific as possible for the money/gift cards, especially if you guys already have an idea about what you're going to get. People like to know that their gift is useful.
3. No thank you card for a card. That's overkill. You have enough to do :)
Congrats again on the wedding, I've been enjoying the photos, they're beautiful!
1. Yes--still thank them for what they gave and for their thoughtfulness.
2. People would love to know that you are saving it for a furniture buying spree after merging two households!
3. No need to send a card--although you can if your housework is all caught up ;)
Here's what I would do - though no idea on how this stacks up with etiquette:
1. I would thank them for the original gift. It is now your gift to do what you please with it.
2. Either - thank them for the gift card/cash gift and if you know what you're going to use it for, I think it would be great to include that.
3. I would not send thank-you's for cards unless it was someone you just wanted to thank for attending the wedding or something else.
Good for you for even being concerned with thank-you's in a day where many people never even acknowledge a gift!
Little Sister's input:
1- I would just say thank you for the "gift". Returning it and using it for something else still leaves you with a gift. And something like "it was generous and thoughtful of you."
2- Always a "Thank you for your generosity", but if you know specifically what you'll spend it on, that's nice to include. You don't have to though.
3- no card for card. Auntie is right. But Homespun Heart has a good point- unless you want to thank them just for coming.
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